"We think with horror of the cannibal who feasts on the still warm and trembling flesh of his victim; but are the results of even this practice more terrible than are the agony and ruin caused by misrepresenting motive, blackening reputation, dissecting character?"
No one is worthy of this... And Your pastors and elders do not deserve it either! It's hard being a pastor, and to stand against the tide. You have no idea how much they go through, the trials they endure, the load they carry, or how close to despair and hopelessness, and discouragement they come to. If they are men who love the Lord with their whole hearts, who are holding up the banner of truth when most others are not and who stand for their convictions, than stand by them, encourage them, love them! They are sinners in need of a Savior as much as you, and they are striving with their whole hearts to be like Jesus, to keep pressing forward in their christian walk and character building. So don't pick on their faults, don't gossip and spread evil rumors to whoever will listen, that are 99.99% always false about them or anyone else for that matter. Don't do it to anyone, even if it were true, it or rather YOU may cause much much harm, cost their eternal life and the ruin of many other souls if you indulge in such a crime.
“Death and life are in the power of the tongue." Proverbs 18:21
If you have a problem with someone, speak personally to them about it and try to work it out... Most often it's only a simple misunderstanding.. Don't hold a grudge or talk bad to their hurt behind their back... It's just not right.
Your pastors love you, and care about you, and pray for you, and try their very best to be there for you whenever you are in need. But who loves them, cares about them, prays for them, and are there when they need someone? Most often, no one. So don't make their burden heavier, or wound their hearts more by misrepresenting motive, blackening reputation, or dissecting character, there are plenty of people who already do that... Show them you love them, care about them, appreciate them... It will bless them and you so much, even if it was just a word, a smile, or an action.
Think twice, or three or four or as many times as needed before you speak and remember the golden rule, do unto others as you would have them do unto you and remember we are all sinners in need of a Savior! Oh, that we would be the grave of each other's faults and failures!
Oh how we must be so careful how we deal with souls, for eternity is at stake...
Eternity... Death and life are in the balances!